Improve Your Dating Odds By Not Dating

Hi, Atlanta. Katie O’Hara here.

I have some advice for all you who are looking to add someone special to your lives and have found it rather daunting in the dating world lately. Let’s face it: online dating is akin to a dumpster fire at times and no one does speed dating anymore. Finding your next date at a dance club? No. The nearest hookah bar that hires models as servers? Good luck with that. What about the people you work with? Better talk with HR first.

My advice? Don’t date. Just have fun and make more friends. I know, that doesn’t make sense. Not dating is the opposite of actually dating. Or IS it?

Surely there are some single people in this picture

The top two issues of trying to find a person to date are “Where do I meet such a person?” and “How do I meet them?”  The answer to both questions are found by asking yourself, “What do I like to do for fun?” (Surprisingly, that can be a deeply profound question for some of us, so take your time!) The surefire way to meet someone is to join a sports or social club geared towards your interests and happiness. But where are these mythical organizations and how do we join them?

An afternoon game of ultimate frisbee

Atlanta Sports and Social Club is the largest provider of adult recreational leagues, teams, social events, and adult sports tournaments in town. ASSC is a year-round operation, specializing in “traditional sports like soccer and softball, as well as fun social sports like kickball and cornhole.” Schedules of events and teams are easy to navigate and there activities beyond sports, such as wine and beer festivals or crawls.

Zog Sports is another intramural social sports community in the Atlanta area. Zog Sports offers traditional sports like softball, dodgeball, and basketball, but offers corporate team options–maybe that’s a good way to chat up Kevin from the accounting department. Zog has  easy-to-access drop down menus to find a team or league near you OR your job.

Not into the straight crowd? Don’t worry, LGBTQ fam. The National Flag Football Association is a gay-friendly league. There is also Hotlanta Volleyball Association, Front Runners Atlanta, Atlanta Bucks Rugby, and Hotlanta Softball League.

Atlanta Botanical Garden

If you are not an exercise enthusiast or a gamer and want to find a more sophisticated crowd, perhaps you should try out Lunchtime Culture at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens. Lunchtime Culture is a free, monthly event curated by the ABG and other organizations, like The Bremen Museum and the Center For Puppetry Arts, to highlight performances, conversations, and tours in various Midtown venues, giving attendants “a fresh perspective” of Atlanta. November’s meetup is at the Alliance Theater for “Puppetry & Acting: Bringing Characters to Life.”

Fernbank Museum of Natural Sciences

If you can’t make the midday event at ABG, take a look at Fernbank After Dark’s recurring monthly lineup of fabulous live music, tapas, full bars, live science demonstrations and hands-on activities. Each month, Fernbank rolls out a themed event night that highlights the science of the season and the beautiful Georgian landscape. November’s event is “Science of Our Senses.”

Hiking with the Atlanta Outdoor Club

Combine both nature, sports and exercise by checking out Atlanta Outdoor Club. This organization has DAILY meetups for hiking around the metro area’s parks and landscapes. Membership is FREE, too!

Plant some trees, meet some peeps

Besides sports and nature, where else could you go to meet your next date? Volunteerism is another way to meet people. Hands on Atlanta, Trees Atlanta, and PAWS Atlanta are always in need of help! Do you like classical music? The Atlanta Symphony Orchestra has volunteers act as ushers, ticket handlers and answer general questions–the payoff is free entrance to the symphony! The High Museum of Art is now accepting volunteers to help with upcoming exhibits, as well.

My point is: Happiness and joy start with you! Find out what activities fulfill you with joy and start looking when you’re in that environment. It’s the perfect strategy for when you don’t want to waste your time and you can meet other people on a platonic level with your shared interests, as well.

Keep dating, Atlanta!

 

 

 

ATL by Night Highlights October 12 – 14

My goodness, another exciting weekend in Atlanta! The fall cotillions aside, the city is a vibrant hub of events every day. In this article, I’m shining my light on events that are happening the weekend of Friday, October 12th to Sunday, October 14th. If you’re looking for events this weekend, check out my article I put out last week.

First off is Atlanta Pride Weekend! A celebration of Atlanta’s LGBTQ+ community begins with Femme, a celebration of women in music and art. Guests will be entertained with music, visual and performance artists by the likes of Amber Monson, Melissa Coffey, Bella Dorado, JayBella Banks, and XT Venus Valentine. That is going on at The Deep End on Friday, October 12th starting at 8pm.

You can also party down at the Georgia Aquarium at the with the official Kickoff Party. DJ Kevin Durard and VJ Mark Gordon will be your entertainment, along with aquatic residents. Someone please pet a turtle or stingray for me!

Drag yourself back to The Deep End Saturday morning for 2nd Annual BOTTOMS UP Drag Brunch + Social, featuring Brigitte Bidet, Taejah Thomas, and Molly Rimswell. Other fabulous things about Drag Brunch besides the performances: brunch buffet, bottomless Bloody Mary’s courtesy of Tito’s Vodka, the Lewks Photobooth, there will be gift bag giveaways and boys, boys, BOYS!

After you’ve recovered at brunch, get ready for the Peep Show starring Alaska Thunderfuck, star of RuPaul’s Drag Race: All Stars Season 2. This a “titillating cabaret” of performers trained in the art of seduction –featuring acts from Alaska Thunderfuck, Brigitte Bidet, LaLa Ri, John James, Molly Rimswell, Melissa Coffey,  Michael Robinson, Diego Serna, and PhaeMonae. Doors open at 9pm.

Don’t forget the parades happening in conjunction with Pride Weekend: the Trans March is Saturday at 1:45pm, the Dyke March is Saturday at 6pm, and the Pride Parade is Sunday at 12pm sharp.

Atlanta Pride is putting on a free concert at Piedmont Park, too! Headliners are Bebe Rexha, Mike Posner, CeCe Peniston, Michele Malone, and Starlight Cabaret. That’s Saturday and Sunday, start times vary.

Paul Oakenfold is headlining Believe Music Hall on Friday, October 12th. The 2004 Grammy nominated DJ and world renowned entertainer is making a stop in Atlanta that night to promote his latest album “Pop Killer.” In addition, Ryan Michael, Founder of Unity Events, is doing support for Oakenfold on the main stage.

Don’t want to hang out in town for Pride Weekend but still looking for something unique? Think about heading up to Alpharetta for the Inner Quest Fest! The Inner Quest Church in Roswell/Alpharetta is holding a one-day festival that offers activities and gifts for the body and soul. Schedule of activities include: Reiki, reflexology, chair massage, color therapy and Sedona Release Method. Readings and healing are $15 each, or you can get a reading and a healing for $25. It’s been real crazy in the world, so you may catch me up there get some bad energy cut out of my auric fields.

Chalktoberfest is happening all weekend in Marietta. You can catch an array of talented artists creating chalk masterpieces on the streets of Marietta Square. It is an award-winning festival sponsored by the Marietta Cobb Museum of Art.

Keep celebrating, Atlanta!

 

 

 

 

ICON A Celebration of Rihanna + Sia

Brigitte Bidet

This Saturday evening at The Deep End, ICON a Celebration of Rihanna + Sia will put on one of the best recurring entertainment shows in all of Atlanta. If you haven’t heard, this is a dance party and features performances to celebrity and music inspirations such as Lady Gaga, Janet + Michael Jackson, Madonna, Beyonce, Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera, to name a few.

Brandon Brandon, host of ICON a Celebration of, greeting the crowd at a past performance

Each month, The Deep End hosts the show and a rotating cast of performers put on a dazzling display of lip-syncing, dancing, aerial arts, burlesque, and sickening fashion to capture the essence of their inspirations as the music plays.  This September, the show is paying homage to Rihanna and Sia–two of the fiercest ladies in the music scene today! Last month was a celebration of Disco and it was AMAZING!

Diego Serna

If that’s not reason enough to come to The Deep End and see ICON then let me tell you the other reason to pull the drapes off the windows and sew yourself a cocktail dress: Shea Coulee of RuPaul’s Drag Race season 10! That’s right, Shea Couleé will be a featured performer in Saturday night’s event. If you haven’t been keeping tabs on Shea, she has skyrocketed on both social media and live performances  worldwide since her appearance on RPDR. Shea is one of a few RDPD former contestants that have and will be appearing in WUSSY Magazine events around town.

Michael Robinson

Amongst the talented cast of local performers featured this month are Michael Robinson, Brigitte Bidet, Diego Serna, Dotte Com, T-Rex, Bella Dorado, PhaeMonae, and Porter Grubbs.  But wait there’s more! DJ La Superior of La Choloteca will be spinning uplifting tunes for the crowd and there’s even a photo booth by Savana Ogburn. Every ICON performance is an amazing journey in expression and creativity that captures the BEST of Atlanta and the wonderful LGBTQIA community it possesses.To say “it gave/gives me life” would be understatement–I hope you can make it out Saturday night to celebrate the city and its people that inspire us to come together. Incredibly straight people-friendly and diversity is highly encouraged at ICON.

Melissa Coffey

Tickets are still on sale for only $10 for general admission and $20 for the Meet & Greet with Shea Couleé.