Improve Your Dating Odds By Not Dating

Hi, Atlanta. Katie O’Hara here.

I have some advice for all you who are looking to add someone special to your lives and have found it rather daunting in the dating world lately. Let’s face it: online dating is akin to a dumpster fire at times and no one does speed dating anymore. Finding your next date at a dance club? No. The nearest hookah bar that hires models as servers? Good luck with that. What about the people you work with? Better talk with HR first.

My advice? Don’t date. Just have fun and make more friends. I know, that doesn’t make sense. Not dating is the opposite of actually dating. Or IS it?

Surely there are some single people in this picture

The top two issues of trying to find a person to date are “Where do I meet such a person?” and “How do I meet them?”  The answer to both questions are found by asking yourself, “What do I like to do for fun?” (Surprisingly, that can be a deeply profound question for some of us, so take your time!) The surefire way to meet someone is to join a sports or social club geared towards your interests and happiness. But where are these mythical organizations and how do we join them?

An afternoon game of ultimate frisbee

Atlanta Sports and Social Club is the largest provider of adult recreational leagues, teams, social events, and adult sports tournaments in town. ASSC is a year-round operation, specializing in “traditional sports like soccer and softball, as well as fun social sports like kickball and cornhole.” Schedules of events and teams are easy to navigate and there activities beyond sports, such as wine and beer festivals or crawls.

Zog Sports is another intramural social sports community in the Atlanta area. Zog Sports offers traditional sports like softball, dodgeball, and basketball, but offers corporate team options–maybe that’s a good way to chat up Kevin from the accounting department. Zog has  easy-to-access drop down menus to find a team or league near you OR your job.

Not into the straight crowd? Don’t worry, LGBTQ fam. The National Flag Football Association is a gay-friendly league. There is also Hotlanta Volleyball Association, Front Runners Atlanta, Atlanta Bucks Rugby, and Hotlanta Softball League.

Atlanta Botanical Garden

If you are not an exercise enthusiast or a gamer and want to find a more sophisticated crowd, perhaps you should try out Lunchtime Culture at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens. Lunchtime Culture is a free, monthly event curated by the ABG and other organizations, like The Bremen Museum and the Center For Puppetry Arts, to highlight performances, conversations, and tours in various Midtown venues, giving attendants “a fresh perspective” of Atlanta. November’s meetup is at the Alliance Theater for “Puppetry & Acting: Bringing Characters to Life.”

Fernbank Museum of Natural Sciences

If you can’t make the midday event at ABG, take a look at Fernbank After Dark’s recurring monthly lineup of fabulous live music, tapas, full bars, live science demonstrations and hands-on activities. Each month, Fernbank rolls out a themed event night that highlights the science of the season and the beautiful Georgian landscape. November’s event is “Science of Our Senses.”

Hiking with the Atlanta Outdoor Club

Combine both nature, sports and exercise by checking out Atlanta Outdoor Club. This organization has DAILY meetups for hiking around the metro area’s parks and landscapes. Membership is FREE, too!

Plant some trees, meet some peeps

Besides sports and nature, where else could you go to meet your next date? Volunteerism is another way to meet people. Hands on Atlanta, Trees Atlanta, and PAWS Atlanta are always in need of help! Do you like classical music? The Atlanta Symphony Orchestra has volunteers act as ushers, ticket handlers and answer general questions–the payoff is free entrance to the symphony! The High Museum of Art is now accepting volunteers to help with upcoming exhibits, as well.

My point is: Happiness and joy start with you! Find out what activities fulfill you with joy and start looking when you’re in that environment. It’s the perfect strategy for when you don’t want to waste your time and you can meet other people on a platonic level with your shared interests, as well.

Keep dating, Atlanta!

 

 

 

Ravine Is The Newest Venue On The Midtown Scene

Friday, 17 August, marked the grand opening of Ravine, an entertainment venue that occupies the space of what used to be called Reign. I am not allowed to call Ravine a “club” because, to be fair, it is not. When I write my neighborhood nightlife scene guide, I will have to categorize places into venues, clubs, bar & food with live music, and pop ups

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Before I go into the music headliner of the inaugural evening, I need to talk about the venue. First off, parking is $20–that is decided by the parking company who watches over the lot, just fyi. VIP parking is available, too. The staff are all very nice and congenial–even the huge, imposing dudes hired for security and VIP area management. Bathrooms were spacious and had friendly attendants. Ravine is not just about music and DJs, but more about hosting private and sponsored events. Want to host DJ Snake here? Awesome. Want to have a bar mitzvah in a sick venue? Affirmative. Does your company want to have a lit end of year party/meeting with a live band? You’re covered.

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Ravine has two levels. The right side of the main floor is dedicated VIP seating areas, with a bar in the back right. The left side is a long, well-staffed bar that didn’t bleed too bad into the main floor. Upstairs is the main VIP seating area that houses up to five parties (it started getting difficult to do math with the strong drinks being poured, so pardon me if I get that wrong). Shout-out to Ed, who was doing a fantastic job of overseeing the entry area of the lower left VIP stairs next to the stage.

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Beware Presents brought us two acts that evening: SixSixMusic as the opener and Loud Luxury as the headliner. Loud Luxury is a Canadian production and DJ duo Andrew Fedyk and Joe Depace, based in Los Angeles. The two met while going to school, and collaborated on songs together. After seeing a Porter Robinson show in 2016, they were inspired to create the song “See It Again.” In 2017, they remixed Martin Garrix‘s song “Scared to Be Lonely”–which brought them to the spotlight and enabled them to do further remixes that propelled them to touring and playing festivals.

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The floor finally got packed around 1 a.m., and I found that I still had a little more personal space than usual–so that was good. I have read Reddit and Facebook Atlanta EDM-based group posts debating the dress code at Ravine: I would say I saw patrons dressing slightly nicer than Opera and IRIS, but not all dripping bling and stiletto heels. Also, and this is important to me, it wasn’t hot inside the venue. If anything, I was cold–which is oh so important when dancing for your life and keeping your makeup looking sickening.

Friday evening was magical, indeed. Not only did I get free Krispy Kreme donuts on the way home, some guy in upstairs VIP started throwing money down on the dance floor making it rain a shower of one dollar bills! Shout-outs to Rachel behind the bar and Stephanie in the women’s bathroom: it was my pleasure shoving some people out of the way in order to collect some free money and tip y’all in cash.

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Okay, so here it is: Did I enjoy my time there? Yes. Was the sound great? Yes. Ravine has invested in a British-designed Funktion-One sound system and the depth was just right for the size of the venue. Lights and lasers? Yes, Ravine uses ROBE lighting systems. It’s not a huge setup, but it enhances the DJ(s) just fine. The large LED screen in the back is really the main draw for your eyes.

I would definitely go back for a music artist I really like. Ravine says it will soon announce other non-music acts and events, so stay tuned! I’m excited to see who else Beware Presents will book, as well. I’m going to recommend Steve Aoki for those of you who are looking for a WILD party; he’ll be there on Saturday, 6 October. You may even get famously caked!

Keep dancing, Atlanta!